This child in question is very intelligent and mature for his age and is able to do all activities which are his age appropriate. However he has yet not mastered the pincer grip for writing and doesn't show an inclination to using colors or pencils. I guess the problem should have been obvious for us but we just didn't realize. When his parents told us that they seem to find him using his left hand more, I suddenly understood. But they requested us to make him use his right hand more. I was sad. I didn't expect it. I thought now that we know he might be left-handed its easy to make him develop his fine motor skills but their insistence has got me worried. Their worry is genuine to a certain extent. They say that most tools which people use are made for right handers. I told them the computer keyboard is designed for the advantage of left-handers though but I couldn't argue more on their point that most tools are made for right handers - The scissors, knife and other cutting tools, most musical instruments and so on.
And so I came home and did some reading on this topic. Yes its true that most things are made for right handers but they can be customized for left handers. Also I read that if left-handers are forced to be right handers in childhood, they develop learning disabilities like dyslexia. Now I think this is more worrisome than customizing things for a left-handed person. My husband is a left-hander and so is my sister. I didn't know till this day that they must be having problems using a knife or scissors. If only people are aware, can help be given to them. I think that forcing a child to do something that prohibits his natural development is a hazard and shouldn't be encouraged. Forcing anyone to be like you (eg right-handed) is not fair. A left handers brain is different than a right handers. We cant change this by force. Just imagine someone forcing you to become left-handed. Will you be able to do everything with your left-hand with the same efficiency as the right? I dont think so.
I don't agree with you Anjum that one cannot change the way he is bought up. If I wish I can start working with my left hand and that will make me ambidextrous. As far as the child is concerned, I do think that this is good that he start working with his left hand. But I still believe, Impossible is nothing...
ReplyDeleteLove your blog!! It has me really thinking right now.
ReplyDelete@Sajid Ofcourse everyone can be trained to use both their hands if the training is given from the very start but the efficiency will never be the same. Also, if you force a child to do something he/she is not comfortable doing, he loses confidence in doing that thing. The child here is still not able to hold a pencil. Thats proof enough that you mustn't force. Yes the child if willing can be taught but not otherwise!
ReplyDeleteI too am naturally left handed, but with training I guess the right hand can be perfected too. Although many people do disagree, and believe that if I had continued doing things with my left hand I would have been more adept at it.
ReplyDelete@M Well, i've met you and seen you use your right hand while eating or doing other practical life stuff. Its not perfect :) When it is, I'll agree with you too!
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ReplyDeleteHI! I too have read that forcing a child to use the right hand when he's more comfortable with the left (or vice versa) can interfere his brain development. While it is certain that we can always train the child to use both hands, but insisting and forcing is not the way to go. We can train but that's only if they are ready and willing. Otherwise, we may be hindering more than helping. From a parent's point of view, i would prefer if the teacher told me about these consequences rather than having the teacher obey my wishes.
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